The Crossroad.

One path leading to better career opportunities while the other, improving the relationship. A typical scenario, even those HK TVB series always put it, "If a man is troubled, there will only be 2 causes, one monetary (career), the other, women (relationship)".

Basically, I'm was in such a situation. After almost 2 hours of the performance appraisal session, where PM decided to finally reveal his upcoming plans for me in the current as well as future projects, I kinda felt as though a huge opportunity has suddenly been slapped on my forehead. Its like advancing to the final 10 of American Idol unexpectedly, the feeling, pretty close to an euphoria. The mind, subconciously, began to make plans to prolong my stay in Singapore, on getting her to come over as well, searching for a new room, changing ownership of the car in KL, all that stuff.

The thoughts ended abruptly after I informed her of my intentions and she stated her, which is to remain in KL. Total confusion ensues as we once discussed about moving here permanently and now the opportunity finally arrives, she pushes it away. Only after much arguments (obviously, me and my flaring temper) and phone calls later, we came to an understanding. Reality hits, I neglected on issues of the wedding, family and friends, and all the other commitments that we already have in KL, are we ready to just let go? Would be really be better off financially since both of us are there? Would we be able to cope with the differences in lifestyle?

The option to maintain the current situation was totally out of question as for me, this distance is really taking its toll on our relationship. One may argue that its just between Singapore and KL, seperated by 45 minutes of flight or just 5 hours by coach. In actualy fact, that was exactly my thoughts until the kickstart. As she moved around planning and getting things done, I'm still stuck in Singapore working (during weekend as well, at times) and this feeling of missing out on everything is pretty miserable. This is not even taking into account how badly I am missing her every now and then...

Hence, it was finally decided that the better choice would be for me to head back. I believe there'll always be other opportunities arising from career's perspective but the chances of spending life with someone so special comes just once in a lifetime.